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She didn’t see any other way to make that dream happen.
They’d only been living in Thailand for a month when Leonor found herself pregnant, and at first Dan didn’t believe the baby was his.
She registered on Filipino and, over the last year and a half, has corresponded with several suitors.
Unlike the first time, when she got together with the first viable man who came along, she vetted the men she met through their Facebook accounts, chatted with them on Viber and Whats App, and then eventually got on Skype with the ones she felt most serious about.
That dynamic was just beginning to change in 2001, when Leonor became one of the first Filipina women to meet a Western partner online.
For the next 15 years, Dan provided her with a more comfortable life than she could have expected, but one where her own needs always took second place.
Divorce is illegal and socially taboo in the Philippines, but Leonor realized she would have to leave her husband.
She had followed a well-worn script when she and Dan met in 2001: beautiful young Filipina meets old but rich Western man.
Yet even as Filipinas and Westerners face off as equals online, the world of dating exposes the ultimate limitations of the web.
Like the worst stereotype of foreign men who come to the Philippines, Dan treated native women as accessories to the lives they envisioned for themselves.
But Leonor nurtured ambitions of her own, and she struggled with the fact that Dan had no respect for her desires.
But a power dynamic that for decades favored Western men has steadily tipped toward Filipina women, largely because of technologies that level the information gap that used to separate the two parties.
Filipinas no longer need to sit around and wait to be chosen, and they now have much more access to these men’s complex lives before making a choice of their own.