Yes, we’ve both lost some weight since we started talking. Thankfully, the vast majority of people are aware that being mean and rude aren’t ways to make anyone feel good, so, for the most part, it doesn’t shake either of us.That first date, 50 percent of the time, is probably going to be a disaster. After all, you’re fat, and fat means you don’t have a lot of choices here.If it is, you’re never going to call the person because it’s just physically painful to think about going on another date. They tell you to stop being prudish and silly and to recognize that modern dating means settling until you make it.You probably aren’t going to do better than you are right now, so you’ve got to keep going with what you’ve got.Maybe you, personally, don’t feel like you’re going to do any better, because you don’t feel beautiful, or desirable, or even adequate.Don't take it wrong, every one has something that makes them deserve to be loved.Just want to say, for guys who are overweight, dating a girl who are not overweight would be a tough thing.
Then I went to meet her, and I wasn't attracted to her at all!
I know that sounds like a platitude, but I’ve been through this dating game, and I know how it feels. Maybe you’re the one getting dumped, and every time, it feels like a punch in the stomach.
But you’re absolutely desirable and worthy of love, no matter how you look.
So you don’t call the person for a second date, because they probably made a mistake and are dreading calling you. I’m going to let you in on a little secret: All of those points are lies.
Or they haven’t called in about a week and you’re sure they’re not interested because you were too fat and too plain. Everyone can be beautiful, desirable, and especially adequate.