Internet dating and texting
“Since singles are chatting with multiple people at a time, after a few days, or a few weeks, the decision to meet will lose its spark, or your digital flirtation might find someone else in the process," Spira tells Elite Daily.She does agree that “texting is a great way to ramp up your digital flirting with someone you’ve met online,” but says you should limit the amount of time and energy you spend on it before meeting in person.“You can’t get to know someone solely and in a meaningful way over texting,” she says.So, instead of trying to learn the person's life story, she advises, “Keep the texting as a flirting tool to send a good morning or good night text, but not in place of meeting on a date, where the physical chemistry and conversation can allow the heart to open up to the possibilities of forming a relationship.”For Hoffman, it’s even more simple.So, the question is, how long to text before having a first date is the right amount of time?Is it better to move quickly into the first date, or should you take it slow and really get to know as much as you can about the person via text before meeting face to face?Since texting is a limited tool to get to know someone before meeting, should you consider other forms of conversation prior to the date? Chlipala says no — head straight into meeting in person, safely.
Spira says to keep it light in the pre-date text conversations, and suggests limiting it to shared interests and passions.“All you need to know before a first date is that the person is interesting enough to spend an hour with - that's it. Her advice is to save the major filtering and getting to know one another for the first date.She adds that no matter how much you get to know one another over text, "you cannot know if you have a true connection or not until you meet." By meeting fairly quickly, you don’t risk wasting your time spending weeks or months texting only to discover there is no chemistry in person.“Just do it,” says Chlipala, who warns that the longer you wait, the more the odds stack against you.“You don't want to know too much about them before you meet because you risk making assumptions and blowing things out of proportion." “You are ready to meet them if you are curious how you would connect in person and if they seem to have your top three desired qualities and none of your top three deal-breakers,” Hoffman says.