Dating someone while they going through divorce
If you want a partner only because your ex has moved on, you’re not ready.
Dating during a separation can lead to healthy love – but only if you’re in the right place emotionally. Only date someone if you really want to be dating Many freshly separated people try to distract themselves from the hurt of a split by seeking a new partner; someone to have on hand because being alone is so unfamiliar.
The new person doesn't need to worry about being named in the divorce action as having committed adultery.
While a person who has recently ended their marriage may feel like they should be going out on dates to prove that they are still attractive, there are good reasons to delay getting involved with a new person.
Until you’ve come to terms with who you are as a single, previously married person, you just don’t have the emotional availability to start something new. As Jackie Pilossoph (creator of the blog) told the Huffington Post, there are all sorts of distractions you can try.
Take up a new hobby, invite friends around, throw yourself into your career: the main thing is to work on being strong and happy by yourself, rather than trying to get that from someone new. Only date someone if things really are over with your ex You might have begun the process of cutting financial and domestic ties with your partner but as clinical therapist Sherry Amatenstein, LCSW advises, you’re not ready to date someone new until you’ve cut the emotional ties too.
All jurisdictions in the United States will allow a couple to divorce without having to establish fault on the part of one of the parties.
It is all too easy to blame the other spouse for the problems that caused the marital relationship to unravel.
Until each person can move past the hurt and anger, they simply aren't ready to start a new relationship with a clean slate.
Far better to be upfront about your relationship status and your relationship intentions, and let this new person fall for the real you. Allow yourself to feel your feelings – whatever they are Jackie Pilossoph describes the process of divorce as ‘’a roller coaster of highs and lows’’ and dating while separated is no exception.
Some mornings you’ll wake up and the whole world will feel full of possibility: there are so many great people to meet and fabulous places for new love to lead you.