Dating a man with kids problems
Blaming your tactic, you vow to yourself to bring it up more casually next time.
Then you raise it in a joking way—maybe while watching a sitcom about the horrors of potty training, you say, “You’ll be in charge of potty training when we have kids, ha!
When something goes wrong with his work or friends, you are the one who bails him out—you explain things to take the heat or responsibility off of his shoulders.
You find yourself making excuses for him, rationalizing his poor choices, and working to see things from his perspective more than your own.
Women, on the other hand, can’t take for granted that they will reap these same benefits—whether women benefit from marriage or long-term partnership is dependent upon the of the partnership.
Consider whether you are dating someone you will have to carry along in life instead of a real partner you can depend upon.
If after a reasonable amount of time ( it to happen. You invariably find yourself disappointed and let down as he doesn’t follow through with plans or commitments.When people do not fully grow up, they farm out the hard work of adulthood to those closest to them.It can be subtle, but if you are making excuses, stop and reflect on why you’re picking up after a grown man. Talk of children or commitment brings panic to his eyes. And then you immediately see panic and a desire to flee.The idea of a boy who never grows up is promoted and even romanticized in our culture as sexy or just “the way men are.” Sadly, women often pay the price for such a prize because there are consequences to keeping this type of man in check. This may partly explain why men, by and large, benefit more from marriage than do women.Marriage brings most men greater happiness, better physical health, and more wealth than their bachelor counterparts.