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I’ve had to own whatever stupid thing I’ve said that didn’t come out right.
I had always considered myself a good listener; I’d just blame my zoning out on the blasting background music at whatever bar I was at.
How have I managed to be sloshed every time I’ve had sex with a new guy, without ever having to go out of my way (or raid someone’s liquor cabinet) to do so? I order a drink that I chug way too fast because I feel uncomfortable. 2, I continue to drown out how awkward I feel by asking the standard questions: “What do you do? Granted, getting out of the bar and away from the drunk-interview style of dating wasn’t easy.
There were times I missed having that vodka soda in my hand so much that I’d stand as if I were still holding it, like a phantom limb.
Without alcohol as a crutch for conversation, I’ve had to learn how to be comfortable with awkward silences.
It also leaves you highly sensitive to criticism and conflict.Many ACOAs are very successful, hard-working, and goal-driven. Your needs must be met consistently in order for you to feel safe and develop secure attachments. You really can’t understand addiction as a child, so you blame yourself and feel “crazy” because your experiences didn’t line up with what adults were telling you (namely that everything’s fine and normal).Some struggle with alcohol or other addictions themselves. Addicts are often unpredictable, sometimes abusive, and always checked-out emotionally (and sometimes physically).But I do think anyone who’s out there trying to meet someone could benefit from a few dates that get you both off the bar stool. It’s a way better gauge of compatibility than seeing who can shoot the most whiskey. I’m still learning how to get out of my head and be present in what’s happening, without critiquing myself the entire time.